Even as Christian women, with our worth rooted in Christ, we still struggle with beauty to some extent. I see it in my mirror, and I see it when I walk into churches, when I talk to youth groups, and when I scroll through online feeds of sexy selfies. We've probably found ourselves leaning to either extreme; sometimes, we fear our beauty, and other times, we feel like we'll never measure up. Being careful meant dressing modestly and hearing constant reminders of the sexual nature of the male mind. I didn't particularly understand the appeal of following rules, and I enjoyed attention, so I threw off the modesty rules and dressed in a way that caused men to notice me. Even though I grew up in church, I didn't truly believe in Jesus until college. After my decision to follow him, my mind soon thought about what meant for my wardrobe, ridiculous as that may sound. I had read Every Man's Battle , a book about men's obsessive sexual thoughts, and it left me with a great deal of fear and a disconcerting desire for a new wardrobe. I was told that being a Christian woman meant protecting men's minds by the way that I dressed. That's what Jesus wanted.
Earlier this year, Victoria Secret Supermodel, Kylie Bisutti, traded in her angel wings in a desire to honor the Lord and respect her husband. It brings up a great question and a dilemma I think many young Christian women face, can Christian girls be sexy? We often talk about how men are surrounded by sex. Someone got the memo that men like women and decided to use the women to get to the men. But it is important to note that men and women are, in fact, not from two separate planets. We live on the same planet- earth, and we co-exist here. Our eyes see the same pictures, our ears hear the same ads.
Each day we are being fed messages about how girls and women should be. The world shouts out that all women are and should be sexy. It is in the television shows and movies we watch, the internet sites we browse, the songs we listen to, the magazines we flip through and even on the billboards we drive by every day. The world tells us that the ideal woman is hot, sexy, sassy and on the prowl. At school the message is no different. When I was at school, social groups were roughly divided by the clothes girls wore. The message we receive at school is that if you dress sexy and engage in sexual behaviour the more popular you are in the social scheme. Your worth and value are not based on your body nor on being sexy. We need to get real about this. Genesis , 31 and Genesis express the goodness of our physical bodies which God created.
Several months ago I wrote a controversial blog post that went viral and picked up a lot of positive and negative attention. It currently has over comments and has reached over a million people. My main point was to bring up the question of why so many Christian girls post provocative, sensual and seductive selfies online. Christian girls are never called by God to be seductresses. But they are called to be beautiful women of God. Even if a girl is fully dressed she can still have a seductive heart which will be displayed on her face. If I post a regular photo with little makeup on, I hardly get any responses. Have you ever felt the way she does? This is a major problem.